Being grateful for who you are when you’re stuck in self-sabotage seems counterproductive only until you realize that beating yourself up doesn’t do you any good either. It might seem strange to some, but let’s take a look at how gratitude can help you kick the self-sabotage habit.

It Eliminates Feelings of Lack

Self-sabotage stems from feelings of inadequacy, and if you aren’t actually inadequate, you’ll sabotage in order to find that inadequacy you feel inside. The way to stop this is through gratitude. If you’re grateful for who you are in this moment while still acknowledging that you have some room to improve, the impulse to self-sabotage will go away. After all, it’s hard to beat yourself up when you’re feeling really good about yourself.

It Replaces a Negative with a Positive

Many people will tell you to stop beating yourself up, which is a good start, but eliminating a negative without replacing it with a positive will only create a void. But look at it this way: If you’ve spent so much time and energy on beating yourself up, you can just as easily redirect that towards building yourself up.

It Increases Empathy

While being hurtful to others is rightfully looked down upon, many people don’t think about the fact that they themselves are people also, just as deserving of love and care. If you wouldn’t say something hurtful to someone else, you shouldn’t say it to yourself either. Kindness breeds empathy and understanding, for yourself and others.


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